This is an internal conflict that everyone has. I may not have the actual numbers but I can say confidently everyone has had a tough choice to make in life.
The tough decisions never happen just once.
We may all make a tough choice but how the decision affects us is different. Ideally we are supposed to learn from our mistakes when we make the wrong choice but a lot of us (myself included) make the same mistakes again and again.
At what point do we finally realize that we’re doing it wrong and finally make a change? It’s hard to say because I have yet to devise a saBROmetric stat that can calculate the exact point we have that epiphany (it would likely use the concept of limits for those familiar with calculus).
But if you ask me why people make the same mistakes again and again, it’s because we’re gamblers.
When a person has a goal set out for himself (or herself), the mission is to accomplish that goal (obviously). We try to accomplish this mission in a variety of ways that all include ignoring the advice of friends. When we have a goal in mind, we all act more irrationally and do things we otherwise would not do.
And why? Because we really hope and pray it will all work out. With reward comes risk—sometimes a significant amount of it—and we cannot hope to win without at least trying first. Isn’t it amazing?
This also explains why we make the same mistakes and why we lose out. Because it is exactly like gambling. A person will always bet on the same horse to win or play the same lottery numbers, or keep playing the penny slots even if he has already lost $456. We put ourselves through a period of torture in the hopes it will be “worth it” when we achieve victory and experience all the ecstasy that comes with it.
I’m going through this now, as are a lot of people. I’ve always had moments where I had to make choices and have usually made the wrong ones consistently. I might as well bet on hoping I make the right choice and some good fortune comes my way.